good & perfect time

Marian Parsonsa slice of life, My House98 Comments

Timing is an interesting thing.

If you have read my blog for a while, you may remember that we put our house on the market almost exactly three years ago.  We had seen a local farm that was for sale and we were hot to buy it!  We got our house ready and listed it with high hopes of selling it quickly.

Well, it was on the market for three months and not one person even called about it or looked at it!  Not one.  It was the strangest thing, like no one could see our listing, but us.  And as people were NOT looking at our house, the house we were interested in, that had been on the market for over six months, sold.  We found a couple other farms we liked and, basically, if someone wanted their house to sell, Jeff & I just needed to want to buy it.  They seemed to get another offer as soon as we voiced interest.

We were discouraged, but we finally got to the place where it was clear that this was not God’s time for us to move.  It’s one of those head-scratching moments when you wonder – what the heck was that all about?

As the disappointment of not moving to an 1800’s stone farmhouse wore off, I found relief.  I couldn’t explain why, but I somehow knew that it would’ve been a mistake to move and we were better staying put.

Just a few months later, we started Dave Ramsey’s “baby steps”.  While we had worked hard to pay off a student loan, we weren’t being intentional with our money.  We started working our way through the baby steps and are now totally debt free except for our house and we have a budget, an emergency fund, savings for upcoming expected expenses, and a long-term savings plan.  We also decided Jeff should complete his Master’s degree.  Because we stayed in our current home, he was able to work part-time and become a full-time student and we were able to pay cash upfront for each semester.

Also, when I moved into the studio space less than a mile from my house, I realized I liked my house a lot more than I realized.  My source of frustration wasn’t with the house, but because I was trying to run a business out of it and live there at the same time!

It was one of those seasons of life when you can see things clearly and I was so thankful that I didn’t get what my heart desired when we were trying to sell our home and buy a farm.

And that leads us to April of this year.  Jeff is just a few credits shy of finishing his degree and has started the search for a full time position in ministry.  I shared a post about moving “onward” and mentioned that we would be putting our house on the market soon.

 

Even though there are a lot of unknowns about where we will end up, our greatest source of anxiety was the sale of this house, especially after the lack of interest a few years ago.  We live in a pokey, two-stoplight town and not many people move here.  It’s not unusual for homes to sit on the market for a year or more.  So, we were preparing ourselves for that possibility.

When I wrote that post, Jeff wasn’t convinced I needed to post about that publicly on my blog, but I felt like I needed to let my audience know generally what was going on.  I will admit that part of it was that I didn’t want people to think I was closing the studio and selling off pieces from my house because we were bankrupt!  Another part is that I write on this blog like I’m writing to a friend and it becomes difficult for me to write freely when I can’t share big things that are happening, at least generally.

Jeff read the post and gave the green light on posting it.

Well, the next day, I received an e-mail from a local acquaintance.  She knew someone who wanted to move to our town and has seen my house online and was interested in it.  With tempered optimism, we set up a time to show them our house.  Long story short…they loved our home and we now have a signed contract in place.  Without even sticking a “For Sale” sign in the yard.

Talk about expectations being blown away!

And the really beautiful thing is that the buyers have been trying to purchase a home in this town for quite a while and the timing just didn’t work out for them on a few homes.  Our house is perfectly situated for them and what they want at this season of their lives.  Since we’re not working through a realtor, we’ve been able to talk with each other about God’s good and perfect timing and what an incredible and surprising blessing this has been to both of our families.

So, we’re closing in mid-July and we’re already starting to pack, purge, line up movers, etc.

We have plenty of time, so my plan is to go through every single item, so we only pack the things we really want to keep.  Everything else will be pitched, donated, or sold in our yard sale (date TBD) or on craigslist.  A few things will also convey with the house.  I mean, those corner cabinets are just too perfect to move, so we’re leaving them here.

We’re not sure where our next home will be just yet, but I’ll let you know when it has been decided.

Until then, we’ll be putting one foot in front of the other…

good & perfect time

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98 Comments on “good & perfect time”

  1. This is great news! Your home is beautiful and your new home will be even more. Can’t wait to see where your journey takes you!

  2. Sometimes we just need to be patient as God will step in at the right time. This home has been good to you and your family, and I am sure you will find your new one will bring many more surprises, and good times.

  3. sometimes we can hear that still small Fatherly chuckle ….

    i’ve been quietly loving your journey for a very long time and will pray with you and yours for this new journey.

    much love <3

  4. I just love your Faith !! I’m sure wherever you land it will be the Providence of God and a fabulous new beginning awaits… ,, Blessings Marian…

  5. Wow! Congrats on things working out. I am so curious to see where this takes you. I have been wondering what was going on with the moving stuff. And you and Jeff are such a great team, things will just keep working out.

    And thanks again for selling my table. It was fun to see it all styled in the Luckett’s pics. I so wanted to come see your huge stall, but life got in the way.

    Here’s to new adventures!
    The Other Marian

  6. Fellow Dave Ramsey alum here! Best decision we ever made was to be aggressive about paying off debt and acting like “grown ups” with our money. It feels so nice to have some security in life especially when you’re running your own business. Also, if you’d like to move to Texas, we’ll glady take you. 🙂

  7. Everything happens for a reason, good and bad – that is my personal motto. When you look back on something that breaks your heart, and see where the journey has taken you, you suddenly understand why it was meant to happen. Good AND bad. Wonderous things and tragedies. Everything has a way to put you on our journey, a journey you were meant to take. (and I mean “you” in a general sense, not you personally) This all sounds wonderful for you and your family and I can’t wait to hear the next part of your journey!

  8. Congratulations Marian! I’m so happy for you and your family. I can’t wait to see where God takes you. 🙂

  9. I too subscribe to the Everything happens for a reason belief…I’m excited for you!

    We are currently doing some projects around our house to prepare for selling and I need to purge…I’m really hoping your ability to purge will rub off on me!!!! I’m a little emotionally attached to things and I know I need to get past that.
    I’m also a closet hoarder ( literally, if you open an armoire pillows come bursting out in your face)…

    I’m really hoping your journey will bring you to Maine!!!

  10. Congratulations! It really is interesting how things work out sometimes….all in God’s time. I can’t wait to see where your next adventure leads!

  11. Living by faith can feel scary and exciting at the same time. It’s obvious that God is leading your family, and it’s great to see how you are trusting and allowing Him to do that, there’s no better way to live 🙂

  12. How wonderful Marian and I’m not at all surprised! 🙂 I was puzzled, as well, when no one even looked at your home! The first thing I thought of when you posted that is was for sale is how quickly it will go & what a lucky-duck that person would be. Then when you took it off the market I thought, God must have bigger plans for them. And now look! So happy for you & your family!!
    I have recently been in one of those season of life myself….wondering what lay ahead since “my” plans weren’t working out. And, as always, God’s plan has been perfect!!
    Blessing to you all!!

  13. Congratulations Marian! How wonderful this worked out the way it did and like you said in God’s timing. I wondered why you hadn’t mentioned that you home was on the market after you made the announcement you would be moving soon. I thought then maybe you had sold it yourselves. The new owners are very lucky to be getting such a great house with so much character.

    It will be fun to see where your new opportunity takes you and what your new home will look like. I am guessing it might be in the mid-west for some reason. I think you should do a post as soon as your plans are final giving your readers some hints before the big reveal!

  14. So excited to see where the new direction takes you! My hat is off to you for being so calm about all of this. I do love your home, but of course, a new home will no doubt bring us lots of posts about renovations and how you put your personal stamp on it. Thank you — and thank Jeff– for keeping us up to date!

  15. Sounds as if things are all working out for you. Wishing you the best of luck with your move. I love your blog and all your inspiration. Looking forward to what is next.

  16. God’s timing is always perfect and isn’t that always truly amazing (and how easy it is to forget… at least for me)? I am always blown away when I see things come together that seemed hopeless or were head scratchers and am reassured that He is in control and has a plan. I love hearing about how his plan is woven for you and thank you for the reminder that He is in control!

  17. This really made my heart putter Marian, congratulations! It all happens in good timing and with god’s will. God bless!

  18. Tears of joy here, Marian. God’s goodness is overwhelming, isn’t it? Ephesians 3:20-21… seeing it in real life!

  19. I am not even a little bit surprised. I bought a copy of your sweet Onward drawing and now we wait to see what is next!

  20. When the time is right, obstacles that may rise up just fall away. I’m happy for you and hope the new path opens up at just the right time. Thank you for sharing where you are on this journey.

  21. Having just packed up after 18 years in one house and moving 2000 miles away I know exactly what you are going through. Believe me when I say I asked God hourly if this was right and it was. I have now moved into a tint trailer on my 22 acres while the house I bought is gutted and it becomes my dream home! “All things come to those who wait” and I always add patiently. The same will come to you!

  22. Love this sooo much, Marian! I love it when Godcomes in, and steals the show, and we realize He was authoring the story all along, even when it didn’t make sense. It’s so encouraging, as we’re all in various stages of the journey. He’s always there. Always good. Looking forward to see how He continues to write your story!
    ❤️ Cheryl
    PS I am drooling over those peonies! Oh. My. Goodness. 😍

  23. Awww Marian . . . I could have told you everything happens when it’s suppose to, but you already knew that! So happy and alittle sad for you all … I know how emotional these transitions can be, even when we want them. I have some useful
    Tips from stories that I experienced with my 2 when we made a huge move twice in a couple of year span, if you thing it would be helpful. I wish someone had tried to
    Offer pointers (emotionally) with the kids.

    Email or call me anytime ….. so excited for you.💚

  24. wow thats great news! I have been following your journey for some time and remember the struggles with selling so that’s such great news that its all worked out for you and your family this time round. Definitely meant to be. exciting times ahead.

    All the best,
    Lisa

  25. So happy things are moving in the right direction for you and your family. My Mother always told us that “G-d’s time is not the same as our time. Be patient”. Dave Ramsey is wonderful and his teachings are spot on. We did his course several years ago and it has been priceless.

  26. Exciting times! I am so happy for you! It is fun and rewarding to look for a home with real intent and knowing your house has sold. I completely believe that God does have a plan for us…..when it is right for us, he lets us know it and that allows us to move forward with confidence and joy.
    I can’t wait to see your new home!
    Cyber hugs,
    Catt-in-Kentucky

  27. Your story sounds familiar. I’ve had similar experiences with the sale or purchase of a house falling into place (or not) to the point where it became obvious what I was meant to do (or not do) and that other forces were at work.

    Aren’t you sweet to leave the corner cabinets for your buyers. I’ll bet they were thrilled.

    Your story about compromising with Jeff on disclosing your plans to move was touching. It helped me understand some of the ways in which your blog and business are done in partnership with your family. I completely understand your position on the disclosure, from both a personal and a business perspective.

    You and your family will end up where you are meant to end up, but I just wanted to assure you that if you if your new location should be the Houston area, you already have at least one friend here (and probably many more).

  28. Waiting on the Lord is such a trial, but we know He is always faithful and right on time! And now you’ll get to start over in a whole new space!!! yippee!

  29. It is so refreshing to read your posts and I admire your courage as you bare your soul. God has blessed you in many ways and you inspire me by sharing your thoughts and talents. By the way, The Washington Post published your interview on Tuesday. You might wish to consider writing a weekly column as you have a way with words. Reading your blog is like reading a letter from an old friend. Looking forward to your next adventure.

  30. Just wanted to share with you that we have been experiencing a similar journey to yours! We tried to sell our house a few years ago but didn’t. Then earlier this year an agent approached us and asked if her client could see our home (it was not listed for sale at that time). They are a young couple that wanted to be in our small village and they loved our house and bought it! We move later in June.
    At the same time, my husband was laid off from his job and then was offered an amazing new job all during the time that the house offer came in!
    We have been busy purging, selling and packing too and we also do not know where we are going!
    All the best to you on your journey and we’ll see where God leads us all!

  31. Absolutely amazing. God’s timing is always perfect. Thank you for sharing your story with all your readers. May God continue to be praised through you and your journey.

  32. God’s timing is always perfect, even though we don’t always see it that way. We had a similar experience with a job for my husband that didn’t come through. (He is retired and consults for the government) After our initial scratching our head because we were sure he was going to get it, we now realize two months later that it was the best thing that could have happened. And now he is getting better offers that still allow us to do the things in semi retirement that we want. My husband said the other night that the Good Lord is sure looking out for us. Two months ago, we weren’t sure of the plans He had for us.

  33. May God continue to bless you and your family with love, health and happiness. May he also bless North Carolina ( and selfishly me ) with your presence here! North Carolina needs some Miss Mustard Seed!

  34. That brought tears to my eyes. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

  35. I remember crying when our offer on a house was rejected. It was a short sale and we knew it was a long shot. But then a few months later there it was again… and the listing was for less than we had originally offered. We couldn’t figure it out. So…. we made another offer. Rejected again. I cried. I mean all day cried. In my mind we were there already and in my mind all the furniture was placed, etc. I couldn’t believe it wasn’t to be.

    And then we bought another house. And here we’ve been for 5 years and I can’t imagine living anywhere else. I thank God every day we didn’t get that house because as it turns out it would have meant a long commute for my husband and friends in the neighborhood have been dealing with horrible homeowner’s association problems. And there was a legal issue concerning that house… although it was listed as a 5 acre property we’ve since discovered it was really more like 3 acres which meant the little creek running through it and the property on what would have been our side of the creek really belonged to the neighbor on the other side. Talk about relief for not getting what we thought we wanted. God does watch out for us….

    1. God opens and closes doors, and we wonder at them. And wonder. And wonder. And then, finally, it all makes sense. Thanks for sharing.

  36. Oh my goodness… I forgot to say I pray all good things for you and your family as you embark on this new adventure. You have been one of my favorite people on “the blogs” for so long… I love your style and am constantly inspired by everything you do.
    Can’t wait to see what’s next!

  37. NOT a Christian here. Don’t kill me. But I do believe in Providence, in a life synchronicity. Congratulations. I hope you move somewhere exotic, where the antique malls/yard sales/Craigslist offerings are unusual and stimulating. I remember when I first visited/then moved to Seattle, the Asian/Pacific influence was so foreign to me-I moved from Michigan. Best decision I ever made. Again, congrats.

  38. Marion,
    Yes God’s timing is perfectly right. I am so happy for you, and your family that things are working out the way you hoped they would.

  39. Yep. God is in control whether we want Him to be or not. And it’s always for our own good. So happy everything is working out. Can’t wait to hear where you relocate.

  40. That is fabulous Marian, congratulations!!! God always has a master plan, we just don’t always find out what it is until much later.

  41. What a wonderful blessing! Selling a house is no easy task, you just never know who is reading your blog! Hope you will find the perfect house!

  42. Miracles happen every day, Miss Marian, if just open ourselves to them! And it’s clear that you and a Jeff did, and now you are being so richly blessed! Everything in God’s perfect time. I can’t wait to see what he has in store for you next!!!

  43. I truly understand about God’s time and counsel a lot of women about it. She knows when it’s time and when it is, you cannot quite believe how smooth the flow is.

  44. What a beautiful tribute to your Faith! I too have been a long-time follower and wish you continued success. You will continue to bloom wherever He plants you. Have a wonderful weekend.

  45. As I have said many times that everything happens for a reason! It wasn’t your journey until now and I know it will be a very pleasant one for you and your family. It seems that when we set goals it all works out for us .

    I am so looking forward to reading about the next home and your plans for your business. You are so good at what you do and have come so far since I first starting following you. I hope you never give it up.

  46. Marian – where is your husband looking for a pastor job? My husband is a pastor of a larger church near Seattle and we are looking for another pastor! What denomination is Jeff looking at for a call? 🙂

  47. One day at a time, sweet Jesus….., and as the Bible says…”To everything there is a season….” As I was reading your post, both of these came to mind. Your faith, so evident in all you do, has carried your through once again. My best to you and yours, Marian. Can’t wait to see where God lands y’all!

  48. Marian, thanks for sharing with us. May God continue to guide and bless you — and your dear family — as you make a move. He has already worked it all out!

    Have a wonderful weekend!

    Blessings!

  49. Well my first reaction is…oh no! I’ve grown with you in that house. I’m going to miss it. But, of course I look forward to your creation of a new home you will build for your family. I can’t wait. God is so good and his timing is perfect. Congratulations. I’m so happy for all your success and accomplishments.

  50. Miss Mustard Seed,
    So happy for you and your family! God’s timing is always perfect. It gives me goosebumps knowing that he loves us and knows exactly what is best for us. In our world of billions of people he listens to our own personal prayers! It leaves me see struck! Congratulations again! You’re new adventure awaits!

  51. as a Realtor this brings tears to my eyes – God’s timing 🙂 what a great reminder to us to trust – Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

  52. This is awesome! I love it how God’s plan comes together in His perfect timing. So from this lesson, you just KNOW He is going to provide the next house/location exactly at the right time. xx

  53. Marian, I have always loved your post but today’s reading has moved my opinion of you to an even higher level. I have been flirting with the Dave Ramsey program for quiet some time, you experience has moved me forward in both my debt free living and in pursing my own business. Thank you and may God’s blessing flow upon you, your family and your readers.

    1. Yes, you really should do it! If you can connect with a “Financial Peace University” class, it is so motivating. Jeff has taught it twice at our church. We have been following his plans and it has changed our lives and how we manage and relate to money.

  54. I’m so happy for you and your family!! I’m sending the best of thoughts for you to find your next location…

  55. Ehphesians 3:20 “For He is well able to do exceedingly, abundantly above all we could ask or think.” Blessings to you and your family as you discover where He wants to settle you, through His wisdom, in His timing, full of His grace, by His mercy, and with all His provision, His love, and His peace. John 14:27

  56. Well that is wonderful and I believe exactly how life is supposed to work out.😊
    I too am supposed to be preparing and purging to move to our next home…smaller…however it is hard for me to purge. So many things so many memories or family heirlooms…how do you do it…😳

    So happy for you all. Rest easy and prepare for your next adventure.
    Look forward to these blogs. Really enjoy them💕

    1. Debee, sorry to be a butt in, but I am right where you are right at this moment. And I felt it when I read your statement. We, too, plan to go smaller now, in every sense. I call it Purge-a-tory. It is SO HARD because we attach memories to the items of the people who owned them. And some antiques and heirlooms are so nice; they just don’t make them like that anymore. What I did that may help you is to donate clothes, furniture, and toys and pray that they go to people who are truly in need. I try to think of mothers or children who have nothing, and who will be thrilled to have this layette, or clothing, or furniture that I love so much, but must give up. What I have learned is that God is really taking care of us in this season. We cannot always tell that is going on because we are experiencing pain. He is clearing the way for new and beautiful life that we cannot imagine, and He is clearing the old debris from our lives. The memories are ours to keep. Keep them. But allow yourself to find pieces that are easier to purge, and begin with them. Work your way into the tough decisions. As I progressed, the little table that I argued so much to keep was a relief when I just decided to let go. It is something that I will no longer have to move or maintain. And I really love to find special new things for my home. But I have no room in my life- for the rest of my life- for anything new if I do not go through this Purge-a-tory. So I am doing it for God. Because then it makes my painful purging a holy act to Honor Him. And that changes everything. I am cheering you on from here, Debee! You can do it!!!

  57. Marian, I really, truly needed to read this post. I read all the replies. We all need to reaffirm with each other that God has perfect timing. And your post elicited these affirmations. It can be an over-used word but it applies here: that is awesome.

    I remember when you were selling – and not a single person came to see your beautiful home. I believe in the Lord opening wide the doors, and closing them shut—tight. He did the same for us when we tried to sell in 2010. Not a bite. In 2011, He opened wide doors that lead us to move out of the state, out of the blue. It totally changed the direction of our lives. Now, we are moving again and excited for the journey. Trusting in Him is the answer.

    I cannot wait to see where you, Jeff, and the boys are going. That will be a blessed church, indeed!

  58. Omg Marian…

    Best story ever… that’s so totally being in “flow”. Makes me think of the country song “thank god for unanswered prayers”. It’s actually the right time now, and only now, and all will be exactly the way it should be. I am absolutely sure that every single thing will fall right into place for you guys… Isn’t that all just so amazing !

    xoxo’s
    Cindy

  59. Timing is truly God’s work! Prayers for you on this new adventure and how nice you can do it at this time knowing it is the right thing for your family!
    Thanks for sharing with all of us! We truly appreciate it!
    Celia

  60. I loved our last home and I am very happy in our present home. But, if I were ever to move, I definitely would want to live in one that you had lived in and decorated. All the work would be done. 🙂 Happy to hear that it all worked out for you.

  61. Marian,
    This was so refreshing to read! We had a similar situation happen to us this year with our home selling but us struggling with moving and finding the right home etc. long story short we pulled out of our contact stayed put, my husband started his masters, and just feeling gods totally in control of this. Your story gives me hope that we can one day too be ready to sell and move to our dream home. Blessings to you looking forward to following your new adventure!

  62. I am also learning that God’s timing is always perfect! I wanted to move 3 years ago to a farm and take over an existing business. My children are getting older and starting to leave the nest, and I knew I needed something to fill that void. My husband wasn’t on board, and that is always my way of knowing that God is not in this. So I waited for what He wanted me to do. We purchased 35 acres last year and my husband is suddenly so supportive of my idea to start a different kind of business. That’s my way of knowing that God wants me to move forward. I needed that confirmation!!! Congratulations on your move! I can’t wait to see what God does with you and your ministry. Bringing beauty into the lives of others is definitely a ministry.

  63. Congratulations to you both, ” Life is not about the destination but about the journey “. I have been following your journey so far and you have not disappointed, may the next chapter be exciting for your family. Best of luck

  64. What a beautiful story. Everyone has frustrations and it seems like what we want is taking forever, but in the end everything works out just like it should. Thank you for having faith and sharing your story. I’m sure it’s one that many needed to hear.

  65. God is so faithful when we give him the wheel! I am grateful for his blessings for you family, and that he has given you an outlet to share them with the world!

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  67. Congratulations on selling your home. It is lovely. You have worked your magic Marion as you will where ever you end up.

  68. So happy for you and hubby, a true testament to the faith of the journey life takes you through. We moved to NC after my parents died. I needed the support of my family after my husband’s diagnosis of cancer. 6 years later, hubby is cancer free and we live next door to our daughter. We are happy to watch our grandbabies grow up!! The Lord takes you higher and higher!

  69. Isn’t it amazing where the spirit leads and the doors that open when the timing is right! Good for you and your family, will be looking forward to reading about the next chapter!

  70. What a great story! It’s so amazing how God works in our lives. I know you’ll be blessed with your perfect home.

  71. From one Pastor’s wife to another….. let the journey of blessings and anticipation and excitement of what God has in store for you all begin. Just love it when the Lord shows up and shows off in a mighty way. Can’t wait to see it all unfold. 🙂

  72. Thank you for sharing this so quickly after your house sale closed just yesterday! I am so very excited for you and for what God has for you and your family! That view was beautiful—looking forward to hearing more about your new area as I have never visited Minnesota, at least not yet. 🙂 My husband and I have moved a great deal in our 46 years of marriage–last year we moved to the Low Country of SC, 35 minutes inland from wonderful beaches. This time, not a corporate move but one that puts us in the coastal life and closer to our children and seven grands. They’re only 2 hours from here instead of 8 where we used to live. It is never easy to start over in many ways, yet the newness and excitement of it all is so worth it.

    BTW, please watch the funny movie called New in Town, about a city woman executivel from Miami, FL who had to move to and close down a plant in Minnesota, in the winter. 🙂 (Renee Zellweger and Harry Connick, Jr; 2009). So fun to hear the folks talk, too. Plenty of loving families and sweet traditions there. Blessings to you all!

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