As I’ve been working on my home over the past few months, a few realizations have hit me. The first one was that I have too much stuff and I’ve talked about purging, selling, donating, organizing and paring down in recent posts. I find myself grabbing more and more things to put on the sale pile. The other day I was cleaning out kitchen cabinets and Jeff stopped and stared at me, sitting on the floor surrounded by kitchen gear and cook books, as he walked by. I looked up at him and exclaimed, “I’m getting rid of all of this! What is all of this stuff, anyway? I don’t use it. I don’t need it. I don’t like it. It’s gone! I see STUFF in a brand new way.” He just replied, “I know you do” and went about his day. He’s pretty unbothered by the things I do in our home!
So, as I’ve been working through things, arranging furniture, deciding what to sell and what to keep, I realized something else. A lot of the rooms I really love and go back to again and again have some things in common. Great antique furniture. Lots of white. Lots of blue. A few really great pieces versus a lot of okay pieces. Beautiful fabrics. Intentional accessories and wall art. Definitely a French and Gustavian leaning with some American farmhouse mixed in. Then I looked at my home. There was a lot going on that fit that description, but then there was a lot that didn’t.
The another realization hit me. I don’t have to just sit long for the rooms I’m tucking away in the inspiration files. I can create them in my home. I can edit out what’s taking away from that look that I love. I can be very selective about what I buy to make sure it works with that style. So, that’s what I’m doing. Why sit around wishing and wanting when I can do? That’s so true of a lot life in general. I want to be healthy and in shape. I want to start a business. I want to see the world. I want to go back to school. Whatever it is, I think most of us sit around wishing, wanting, dreaming…maybe even planning, but we don’t do anything about it.
The furniture in my home is really not important at all in the grand scheme of things, but why not work towards what I really want? Especially since it’s a big part of my business? Especially when, in my case, it’s involving a lot more selling than buying? So, that’s what I’m doing.
A few of you have noticed that my style is changing…evolving. But, it’s not really. It’s the same as it’s been for a long time, but my style is becoming clearer as I’m editing and moving things around to showcase my style better. It’s a shift in thinking that’s resulted in the style shift. It’s much more about editing than about adding whatever I buy that I really like and would prefer to keep instead of sell.
And I’m a champion at that – digging my heals in and keeping something I know doesn’t work, but I really, really like. In the end it’s like trying to eat a bag of kettle cooked potato chips while you’re trying to slim down. (It doesn’t work, by the way. Guess how I know…) So, you have to make a tough decision. Do I want the chips or do I want to get rid of the love handles and muffin top? Do I want my style to show through or do I want to keep this really cool find that detracts from that style?
And I’m really enjoying the results…
I smile when I walk into the rooms where I’ve incorporated this new way of thinking (for me.) I feel more creative in those spaces. I feel like there’s more room for living in them.
And isn’t that what a home is all about, anyway?